For now she is assuming so much power and I have the power to walk away from 6 years of marriage or accept her proposal and receive all that she promises as a delayed gratification. I really just don't know what to do.
Bariga,
I would suggest to you that you have a third option. This "third way" is the way of DBing, and it says "I do NOT accept your proposal, and nor do I want a divorce." And when she says "then you leave me no option," or "Then I will divorce you," you say "Do what you feel you need to do. I will neither stop you nor will I help you," and you go on about your own life, becoming the best man you can be. One that can be trusted financially, emotionally and in every other way.
Divorces take time, and there are ways you can stall them. I don't accept her premise, or the way she is framing the decision, and neither should you.
