Yep, that is basically why I don't talk to RL people - they don't understand and try and help and I get annoyed and frustrated that they don't understand and they get annoyed and frustrated that they are unable to help. So, all in all, it is easier all round if we just don't talk about it. For me it is more about surviving it and people don't understand why it is taking so long - that this is my process and his. Plus I still don't like to hear people calling him names etc.
H and I have been corresponding about the cat on a different email (other than the one about meeting up). I didn't bring up the fact she is stressed by people coming round and he has naturally come to that conclusion himself which is good as I am not being 'mother'. He also asked about feedback about the house. I think I am going to bring up the fact that most people seem to be noticing the snagging bits that I asked him to come up and do - it is true, I think it is putting people off. And then told me a story about someone we used to work with that he had seen. This morning he sent me a BBC news clip relating to an old private joke we used to have together (when we were lovely dovey and a 'family') about the cat. Weird, but nice that he still remembers...
I'll respond back and engage, I remember a funny story about that woman so I will tell that I think and laugh about the clip - it did make me lol!
He hasn't mentioned anymore about meeting up. I have already put it in the first email so he can respond when he likes. Although, it does now look like i will be busy on Thursday. Or would it be a 180 for me to ask? It will come up eventually, but I am enjoying this email chat as friends. What do you think? It is not giving me hopes or expectations, just chatting about old times.
In other good news I went to visit my new little niece who is adorable! She had an infection and has been in hospital all week but has been given the all clear. The exciting news for me is that they have asked me to be god mother. Seriously, I could not be more pleased and proud, it is such an honour for me. Now, not only do I get to be the favourite aunt (as I am with my nephews ) I get to be god mother too.
) I get to be god mother too.