As far as the OM goes, she will not budge but she promised the affair is over. It makes me really angry but I believe her when she tells me that the affair is over. My wife is not from the USA and this ex BF or OM is part of a group of friends from her home country, if she has to stop all together with him, she cuts herself off from all of her friends.
I told her how I feel about her being his friend and how I think it is cruel and inappropriate but for now I will have to trust her or loose the marriage.
Yes she wants dates. I don't know how I am supposed to behave on those dates though.
I want to live together but she just won't let that happen. What she is saying that she needs is a concrete reason for her to invest in saving the marriage. My promises to be stable and fruitless efforts so far have not provided any real results. She promises that when she feels there is a reason to save the marriage then we will begin to negotiate.
For now she is assuming so much power and I have the power to walk away from 6 years of marriage or accept her proposal and receive all that she promises as a delayed gratification. I really just don't know what to do.
