Do you think you really would have heard him if he had "strapped on some balls"?
I stand up for myself all the time and do you know what I get when I do..."Oh god! This is just too overwhelming for me! I can't talk about this right now." Sometimes I say, "Well we ARE going to talk about this right now" which is met with a blank staring off into space followed by a "Well, I just don't know what to say about that." Other times I say, "Ok, you don't feel like talking about this right now, when would YOU like to discuss it?" which is met with "I am too overwhelmed, I can't give you a time, just leave me alone!"
I, for one, have had just about enough of this, "I wish my man would grow a pair and stand up to me. I'd really respect and love him if he did. It could save our relationship." In my humble opinion, it is not the responsbility of your mate to make you treat him with respect or love (read--turn you into an adult)......it is yours to decide to. I see great men all the time being mistreated this way by their spouses, all the while the guy has the biggest pair of brass ones around, the wife just does not see it because she is too narcissistic to notice.
I am not trying to be rude here but do you think you would have actually heard him....or do you just wish you had been able to.
Sorry Cathy...I sort of vented here and it is not directed at you. I just think that women have to be very careful when they start assuming that just because your mate goes along with you he is afraid of you. I for one think it is imperative that mates go along from time to time even if they don't feel like it, not because they are wimps or are afraid...but because they love. There is a HUGE difference between the two.
