What she is asking me to do as far as the financial responsibility is what I should be doing anyway and though she is rigid when she sets her jaw, I don't think she will stay that way once I have gotten on the path to stability.
I always reserve the right to tell her I'm not interested later on.
She has actually spelled out what she needs from me for the first time in 6 months and told me what she is willing to do if I can make it.
To me, the "I will continue to be friends with the person that I had an affair with" ALONE would be a deal-breaker. This is unworkable even IF the two of you were together, working on your marriage. For the contact to take place during a time when the marriage is especially vulnerable -- when no physical or emotional needs of EITHER partner is being allowed to be met by the other -- is simply kerosene on a bed of hot embers.
This smells to me like a test that she's PURPOSELY setting you up to fail.
