Snodderly, I didnt assume he was with her, I know for a fact she was there, her car was in his driveway. She spends weekends mostly with him now. All night, and that is what makes me sick. I try not to think about it MUCH though. As for my xh asking about me, I found out from my son that he asked where I was before he came over. So he was not wanting to talk with me, just the opposite, he was afraid of running into me. Since he has been seeing this young girl lately, it seems like he stays farther away from me. He seems more distant. He lied to me las time we spoke by saying her time was just about up and he was moving on to another. Someone seen them out the other night and they were all over each other. Why do you think he is lying about dumping her...or maybe she is ALL he has right now, because someone said he was trying to ask another girl out. Anyway I know I shouldnt care, but I cant help it. I do, however, have a BIGGER problem that I need help with. MY SON. I have made the mistake a couple times asking my son (after he talked or saw xh) if he mentioned me. Since then my son doesnt trust me when I want to mention his dad. He thinks I am just trying to gather information from him. My son, like his dad, is not a good one for details. He never tells the whole story, therefore I get bits and pieces about dad. He (my son) said something to me tonight that bothered me so much. He said I aggraviate him and thats way my xh divorced me. (I know he heard xh say this, so he repeated it). He also said I was completely to blame for everything! This hurts guys. I tried to explain that his daddy was also to blame and that he left us because he wanted to single again and see other women. I probably shouldnt have said this, even though my son will be 19 in June, he still acts very young and loves his dad no matter what he does. BUT I am tired of getting blamed and I am sorry, but I am tired of trying to tiptoe around everyone and play NICE!!! What really did it for me was today when he called his dad and told him I was asking about him and told him to call me, he said his dad said NO. My son did this out of anger and was begging his dad to call and tell me to stop asking about him, and THEN told his dad I wanted him to call. (I never even asked my son to give him a message to call me, I only said I wish son would call his dad and find out about some golf clubs that someone was claiming to be theirs...xh left them behind.
So snodderly, should I phone xh and explain that son was misunderstood? or should I just let it go and not worry what xh thinks? I want so bad to tell xh that I was NOT asking a bunchof questions about him. I dont want him to be all SNUG thinking he has me where he wants me,,,especially if he his still seeing other women (which I know he is). What should I do?
