Yes.. yes you can.. but it is a choice you have to make.
"I asked him to try and imagine how I feel."
I know. He could not "see" it the same way you do.. if you wrote it all out.. in DAM speak. (DAM=Dumb As* Man)
His point of view is way different than yours.. he will not "see" it like you. This.. is part of the problem. You have this issue also. Your scope of view right now.. is very narrow. It is focused on you and your pain. The quicker you reign it in.. the better off you will be.
Just to prove a point.. I want you to really look at these statements.
"I asked him if he felt he was getting what he wanted."
"If he felt he was going to be happier once all this was over."
"I told him that I worry about him and that I can see he really needs a friend to talk to"
Now.. think about them with different ears.. not the "hurt" ones.
What you are doing and where you are right now.. is where we all have been at one point or another. I am not putting you down.. I am not discounting how you feel. I am just gonna tell you.. the longer you do "this" the worse it is gonna get for you. It is a slow and painful ride to the bottom. Trust me.. I got on the ride. Had my hands up and everything.
No.. woe is me. You have been given the chance.. to show your true colors. How can you win?
The simple answer is be who you are.. and hope.. someone follows.
Please feel free to scream it out here.. just don't do it where he can see it.. or hear it.
Read around.. there is lots of food for thought here.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
