We've been together for over 15 years (8 years of marriage inculded). We're in early 30s, have no kids.Never had any fights,any major problems in our "perfect" marriage (so I thought).Long story short: two months ago my wife annouced that she's fallen out of love. Said she cared about me, loved me as a friend, a brother. Said that she's in love with someone else (a guy who 17 years older, divorced twice). They met at work, it all began as friendship and you can tell the rest. One week later she moved in with him.For the first few weeks I didn't pursue her at all, didn't call, text, email. Then she reached out. During our first conversation, she was crying,apologetic, admited to adultery. Told her that I love her no matter what, I'm ready to forgive and want her to come back. Weeks passed by and we're still separated, however see each other more often, text or call almost every day. Our meetings feel almost like a date, we have fun, enjoy our company. When I approach "the subject" she says; she doesn't know, she's afraid, not sure, etc. She's been seing psychologist but so far it didn't help much. I think that he helped her to understand things about marriage, herself and life in general, but she is not ready yet to commit either way. Still has been leaving with OP. I told her many times that I'm ready to move on with my life if the "D" decision is made. She doesn't want to leave me for good, doesn't want to come back. I'm running out of options and patience. I love her so much and there is nothing else in the world I would want more than be together and have a happy marriage again. She knows that and that's why she plays the "waiting game". Last week she almost moved in, but changed her mind in the last minute using well know mantra as an excuse: "I don't know, I'm not sure, I'm afraid, don't push me". However, mentioned something about the possibility of moving out from his house and finding a place just for herself to think, which I see as a progress (if she follows through). I need advice from someone who went down similar road. Should I continue to keep in touch, see each other but stay neutral on the issue (shouldn't push). Or maybe I should use 180 or last resort technique. I'm having such a hard time with this because we are right "in the middle". What I mean by that is that we've made some progress already; we don't avoid each other, stay in touch, communicate quite well, on the other hand it doesn't get us anywhere and she's been leaving with OP. What about our daily texts,phone calls emails we send each other? Should I only respond, or just compeletely ignore it? Thank you for all the input and help.
