I think about all the great things my W was to. And I know she still has it in her. But she just isn't letting it come out right now. Something else has taken over. For her its not alcohol though. Its vanity, materalism, etc.
Everyone has their thing. For your H it is alcohol. And Alcohol really does change your perspective on things. I know from my own past experiance. It makes you someone different that you are not. It made me someone that I really wasn't. I am able to see that clearly now.
Keep hanging in there. Hopefully your dad can help you out. Nothing wrong with that in times like these. I'm doing the same by staying with mine while I study to get a better job.
Try and enjoy the nascar without him and maybe watch it with someone else. Won't be easy. I know. I hardly watched my Dallas Cowboys this year because all I could think about was my W and when we would watch them together.
Is that codependent no more book giving you solutions to help you break away from it?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
