I have that book, too. I was actually reading it and had picked out a paragraph to post to you. So I find all of this hilarious. The basic premise of the book is DETACH. So there you go. But here is the paragraph (although there are many others) that made me think of you:
"Christians beliefs work just fine. Your life can work just fine. It's rescuing that doesn't work. 'It's like trying to catch butterflies with a broomstick,' observed a friend. Rescuing leaves us bewildered, and befuddled every time. It's a self-destructive reaction, another way codependents attach themselves to people and become detached from themselves. It's another way we attempt to control, but instead become controlled by people. Caretaking is an unhealthy parent-child relationship-sometimes between two consenting adults, sometimes between an adult and a child."
"Our real needs don't get met. Our real needs become greater and so does our despair. We center our lives around this person, trying to protect our source of security and happiness. We forfeit our lives to do this. And we become angry at this person. We are being controlled by him or her. We are dependent on that person. We ultimately become angry and resentful at what we are dependent on and controlled by, because we have given our personal power and rights to that person."
Sounds familiar? I thought they wrote the book about me!
Tampa, I dunno. If you'd have said Point Clear, Alabama, I'd have been on the next flight.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
