The Unfaithful Wife - That's Still Me #3

[K4D]

Mel,

I hear ya. I'd feel the same way. How can you look at the bed, house, rooms, etc knowing what was going on in there when you weren't there.

And how do you know he genuinely wants to work things out just because OW left in July. I guess you don't. I guess its up to you to decide if its legit. Maybe after she leaves, still stay separated and then see with time if he is legit. If he really wants it to work, he will understand AND BE APPRECIATIVE of having a W that is willing to look beyond all of this if he cleans up his act.

Ugg. Again, what an idiot he is. Why won't my W do that??? Oh well, not my thread. Anyways, just let things play out and see if things truly change. At least he hasn't filed yet. And he may not. He may just still be in confusion right now as to what he wants.

I know that back in February when my W wanted a D. There was this guy that she really seemed to like. But then he moved to Atlanta. Once that happened, things got better between us for a while. On the other hand, fast forward to September and she wanted a D again.

Tough to tell. Do whats right for you. Maybe we should both read codependent no more.

Sorry you have been crying all day. I know its hard. So many times especially while packing I want to do the same thing to. But my wife considers it a sign of weakness and clingyness and needy. At least you aren't doing it in front of him. He doesn't see it. So in his mind, you are still strong. Its ok to cry when alone. Let it out. And then get ready for the next DBing situation that comes up.

You are doing good. Lord knows you have really been there for me. I have so needed someone in my corner. And alot of people on here have been. You are a great person. And you are handling things better than I am. Don't lose faith in yourself.

Kevin