here is where we are now. It is no where near where I had hoped or even thought.
We have been separated for 6 months. She wants 12 more with a 6 month re-evaluation. She wants me to prove my emotional and financial stability before she commits to marriage again.
She says she wants to be happily married to me but that she will not be able to do it unless I prove this to her.
She says she will show me no encouragement along the way because she wants me to be stronger than I have been and do it on my own.
As far as her affair. She said she will not sleep with that guy again but she will continue to be his friend. I trust her because she has never lied to me.
This is very one sided and it feels cruel. I can do the financial thing but a rigid 6 months with no love from her seems to be opposite of the reason to save the marriage.
