Discovered OM. Spouse doesn't know that I know. She's still pushing divorce. She spoke to me Friday about counseling, working together, joint custody, etc. Then after spending the weekend with him she's full of piss and vinegar, wanting to start arguments over every little thing, etc.
I'm not going to confront her due to the legal situation she created. But I'm just focusing on me and the kids, making positive changes, and doing what I can to be a better person.
The OM is a real piece of work... alcoholic, lives with his parents, changes oil for a living, has tens of thousands in debt that he gets harassed constantly over, etc. She's completely and totally infatuated to the point where she left my house Friday being friendly as could be, drove to a grocery store parking lot, jumped out of her car, jumped in his, and drove right back to his house next door to mine.
All on film. She left at 6:30am and was dropped off back at her car.
Tough break... but I feel it is best not to confront her except through my lawyer. I don't see a 'real' relationship working for them, but the fantasy thrives.
I'm sure reality will hit when her lawyer asks her about it after I counter-file.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
