It's ironic how far a head of me she was in finding trouble in our M and now is so very far behind me in reconciling those feelings.
I like this too. I wonder how common this is - guess it gets to the whole question of whether WAS regret things when there weren't insurmountable issues in the M. I think the LBS is better off to the degree that they tend to dwell on things and work through them while trying to let go, precisely because they are in the position of being so far behind. They're dealing with the reality of the D. I think WAS deal with things not through the realities, but through the possibilities of life with OM or being single or whatever. This leads to justifications, which bury the true feelings and they may never deal with these feelings properly, carrying all their issues with them. But each sitch is different, so I may just be projecting.
It's like Ian says - friendship depends on how each party deals with their own responsibility and forgiveness.
