You have some great posts already, NC, what they said! I do think there is a plan that is working out in your life and also your W's if she will let it. Things will work out for the best for you and your sons. ((((NC)))))
It sounds like you're doing great! Do not go into the apartment (reminds me for some strange reason of those horror movies where the people go into the scary psycho house for some bizarre reason!) good job on the forwarding the email and I like mc's idea re: that too. The more you can NC, just trying to do emails and like lwb suggested just responding to the good stuff, the better it will be for you and your sons. And I think even your W will regret some of the ugly stuff she has done in time. Karen