Hi Treese, your right it sucks and I am sorry you have so much on your plate. Please don't feel guilty about your mum baby sitting whilst you get the odd night out. I am sure she is only to pleased to do so. Speaking for myself I love to feel useful and needed. I am sure D doesn't mind either an odd time but I do know the resentment that builds up when you think of H having a nice easy life. Is he? who knows. We are repeatedly told that they are not and have regrets and are miserably etc. I have to say mine never gave that impression and 8 years on still shows no regrets. I am afraid I have to answer yes to the question re time and ow but maybe I am in the minority but I think not. Treese I am not sure if you have your finances in place with regard to H, if not I do urge you to get some legal advice. Vent away thats what we are here for. I hope you feel better for it. Time will help when it comes to the hurtful words. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you down, come on you know the drill pick yoursef up and live YOUR life. Here's a hug whilst you finish drying those tears.
