NC....wow, she is even putting it down on paper, hmm? Is there a trusted friend who could read her emails for you and just give you any real info that you need from them? I wouldn't want to look at these for even an instant.
Good on you for forwarding them to your L.
My X picks the kids up from the driveway. How old are the kids, could they come out to you?
I had to go into no contact, because the contact was making me so sick and heartbroken.
It seems like the more guilt they have, the worse they feel about themselves, the worse they lash out and try to treat us.
Turn all your attention to the kids, and hang in....