Hey guys, just reading along. I am trying to remember if during my very brief stint at piecing whether I was concerned about OM. Perhaps I should have been. I was so happy to have another chance that I believe that like Lan, I put it aside for a while. I think anybody who cheats on their spouse will do everything possible to hide it as long as they can. One of the reasons is that they do not want to hurt the other person any more than they already have. Another may be because they are embarassed about what has transpired. It may be a combination of both. During the time which they were apart, many things happened to both parties (some have called it growing or knowing what one wants). I think both parties are grieving here and until that grieving period is over, there is very little chance of success. I read very few (none) acts of love that a couple trying to work things out should do in K's posts...by either party. I read more compassion in folks who are seperated or even divorced than here. To me that speaks volumes. I guess what I am trying to say is the effort may be there (counselling etc) but the passion, the friendship, the fun.....it's just not there...I can not read it. We can choose to dwell on things or we can choose to put them aside (perhaps to be revisited at a later date) and continue to move forward.
