That takes on lots of meanings.. and I feel I don't have the time to expand on them.
So for now.. we will just say.. Reverse P... and leave it at that.
"We touched a few things that showed we are far from being calm or forgiving or even understanding with each other."
Let me help you with this... DUH!!!
"H for the first time showed emotion=anger."
This is not bad.
"He said he is fed up with me convincing him about things and he will finally express what he wants and he will not back off a step on anything."
did you hear that? If not.. just read that statement.
He never said there would be any action. Never. He is gonna fight.. the way he knows how. And it is gonna suck for you. 110%
"For me the whole issue was stupid because I have been begging him to express what he wants all our common life"
Fighting a losing battle? Yes.
You asking for something.. he "can't" give. Never work.
He is capable.. and will respond. You are just doing something wrong. I know you are.
"so I was accused for reacting and acting on things life threw our and way and using my brain..."
he has done this too. Focus on how to stop it.. not how to point it out.
"he as well was alone, this one year was hard on him as well".
I have said this many times.
"it was not the same for both of us, he said he doesnt accept that, "we were both responsible"
Both of you.. right now.. have a very narrow view... of things.
"he wasnt sure what to do that would make me happy."
His fear is bad. Somehow.. some way.. you saw it. That provoked.. your fear. Which again.. was good. Not trying to be right.. just pointing to the "fact" of the matter. Someone.. being scared.. fearsome.. of what to do.. should never invoke you to be "fearful".
"And Forrest, on the way home I was thinking that either there is a big love somewhere beneath all the hurt or that I am a masochist. I cant explain why I am doing this."
Good. I am not good with words.. and cannot explain it all.
Just as with me.. there is some "Big Love".. somewhere.
I know you did not ask for this.
So.. attacking VH...
"I think that as long as he is trying to figure out what to do to "make you happy" he isn't getting it."
He is fighting a loosing battle. But this is what he knows. Make K "happy". The heart is there.. just focused on the "wrong" things.
"His focus is on the wrong person."
Yes.. and no. See.. the focus should be on K. How many people have posted saying that he should be "focused" on her? Think about it.. if you really look at it.. he is "focused" on making things better.. yet.. it seems out of time.
"If he is just worried about making you happy, he isn't thinking about making himself happy."
Anywhere else.. I would agree.
But for a WAS.. coming back.. they are gonna screw up.. the "focus".
He was "happy" from the time he said.. I wanna come home.
"I need the story. I NEED the story. I dont want the story. I NEED it. I wish he loved me enough to get over his guilt and selfshiness and approach me, hold me, talk to me sweetly and show me love."
Hmm... Lanzo.. could add a lot here. You made a choice.. K. This does not factor into it.
"You are locked into this 8 week commitment, and it is having a very negative effect on you."
You are not locked into anything.
I don't care if you are fat. Does not matter.
The "fat" does not hide who you are.
I just feel like I need to say.. Stop.
I know.. somewhere.. along the way I am missing "something". But that still does not change my point of view.
If you keep on like you have been for the past few months.. yea.. he is gonna hate you.. and you 2 will end up D.
Kalni.. Maria.. The way you are coming across right now.. is overwhelming.. for a DAM. The way you defeat.. DAM syndrome.. is to break it down.. into simple thoughts.. and actions.
A DAM is gonna say.. things are going to fast.. (Slow Down).
A DAM is gonna say.. I don't know how. (Slow Down).
A DAM is gonna say.. I need help.. showing me how to love you. (Slow Down).
A DAM.. is always gonna say.. Slow Down.
Slow down.. and figure out.. if you can love a DAM.
If you can.. love a DAM...
Then you...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
