Trying to let go........with love!

[Silent Chrleader]

Well, I went to the house and mainly just helped clean a bit and bring the rest of the stuff that I want over to my place.

I was successful in staying upbeat, or at least calm and cordial, and no emotional meltdowns. This was a challenge a couple of times. Once when my mother asked me "What are you going to do with your wedding dress, just chuck it?" I know H heard it, but he just walked away. I told mom that I didn't think I had to make that decision right now. I then just went in to H and asked him if he could please take that stuff to our dream house to store (i.e. our wedding pic, my dress....). That is where he plans to store his stuff when he gets just a "room" in the city.

The other challenge I had today was when H informed me that he had an appointment with a lawyer to get info about bankruptcy. That wasn't the problem, because I had suggested that getting this info would be a good idea......no, the hard part came when I went with H on the appointment, and the lawyer said it would be beneficial for us to D if we file for bankruptcy, because then we get to allow expenses for the two households.

But, I kept my cool and didn't say a word. Actually, even after the meeting, H is hoping not to have to file for BR because then he/we would live under the scrutiny of the "trustee" for 5 years, and H is just not one to handle that comfortably.

Anyway, overall I did pretty good I think. And thank you, sandycay, for calling me this morning for my PMA pep-talk!!! It actually really did help!

Also, I did talk to H about S17 and the options I have found for him for drug/alcohol treatment. H doesn't want to pay for that until he sees commitment from S. I understand his feelings on that, but C has told us that it's normal for S to be reluctant at this point, because he's not in a full blown addiction situation YET. But we don't want to wait til he gets there either. So, I'm thinking that the session with H on Wednesday will definitely be about S17.

S is still over at the house with H because H wanted to have a talk with him......I'm interested to see what came out of that......