Thanks for stopping by and offering your advice. I have checked out some of your thread and it seems like you have done very well overall. I think I have it much "easier" that any of you that have had to contend with an OM. I'm 99% sure that there has been no OM in my sitch. Like you can relate to, my W was a "worn out (SAHM) lost identity WAW". She loved being a SAHM, but deep down missed her career.
I really shouldn't be so trivial to label her as I did plenty along the way to distinguish the feelings - mainly through an unpassionate M, me not taking care of and loving myself, having my own interests and not being supportive enough, at times.
My only complaint in the sitch was that my mife didn't tell me she was "unhappy" till she was check-out and no MC or me working on myself would help her come back.
I thought I really let go a month or two ago, especially after reading "co-dependence no more". Then, over the last couple of weeks, the W contacted a L and a mediator, and I realized that there is no turning back for her. Kind of gave me a shock, but after a few days of it sinking in and talking through it here and with my DB coach, I feel like I ready to check out myself.
I'll still be loving, and attentive, but am done pursuing. And I have no interest in moping or getting down on myself. I'm at the point now, if she wants to move on, then I'll, also, get to move on. I still believe in her, but also believe in me if she doesn't turn around and come back.
