Lots of positives man. Looks like you are a quick learner, you are already figuring out which approaches result in negative comebacks.
Keep working on yourself and enjoying life. Heck, even when you clean up the house try to enjoy it, crank some good music and work hard, it will take your mind off things and give you the satisfaction of seeing the house transform.
Advice for your date? Treat it like it is a first date. Look and smell great, aim to make it a very relaxed and fun time, no talking about any heavy stuff, no R talk whatsoever. IF she brings R things up LISTEN to her and VALIDATE what she is saying ("I completely understand", "You are right", "Who could blame you for that" etc). Let her get things off her chest, but don't participate.
All the basics of good dating apply:
* Clean car, pick her up, get the door for her, be a gentleman. * Make sure to order for her, or let her order first. * You pay. * Don't ever appear needy, upset, out of emotional control. Be masculine. Don't ask her if you can kiss her goodnight, just do it if it feels right.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
