\My wife is going to leave me in 5 days--help!

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Thanks everyone for your replies, thoughts and comfort. Ok, I'm done crying for today. I think I've lost 7 pounds in the past week. Didn't call me wife at all today. Took my daughter to her singing audition/testing for her choir. She did awesome--so proud of her and wonder why I never took the time to sit back and enjoy it. She asked if we could stay and see some other girls sing. The old me would have said no lets go and I would have come home and watched tv. I said sure sounds good and her jaw dropped. I listened to a couple of songs then told I'll be outside take your time and let me know when your ready. Had some fresh air and cleared my head and just relaxed. No place to be and the house can get cleaned anyday. My daughter came out an hour later and smiled and asked if she could spend the night at her friends house from the choir. I said, why not? Jaw drop number 2. She smiled so big at me--ahhh, felt great. Got home and jut relaxed--heh, I deserve it I was just in Iraq. My Dad called and asked how things were going--gave him the lowdown, he just listened. In the middle of talking, the wife called on the other line. Well, I let it ring about 6-7 times before I switched over. She asked how my day was and I said pretty good, how about yours? She said it was ok and then started talking about the relationship again. I told her about the interaction w/ my daughter--she was like wow. Told her about the talk I had w/ my SS--how he hugged me and told me I was a good dad--got the question and said why haven't you done that before. Told her that something just clicked in me while I was in Iraq and I felt like I'd been focusing on the wrong stuff for years and wanted to just relax, have others relaxed around me and just enjoy living because I honestly don't think I have been. I mean for God's sake I have a vette and haven't even enjoyed driving it cause I worried about something happening to it--stupid--slowly but surely changing. She said well, I didn't have some life changing event/ephiphany in Iraq and its just to late for me right now. I said ok. I asked if she signed the lease for her apartment. She said she didn't even if they would let her since she has a mortgage--man, I'm praying they don't. Started to plead for her to come home--she started to get defensive--caught myself when she said I wanted to call you like 10 times last night--WTF???? Immediately, stopped pleading and she started talking about just wanting a break and that she didnt want to hurt me. She slept all night and most of the day and wanted to know if I wanted to go out to dinner still. I said that I did and she said good. She said I don't want a divorce--actually said it but she wants to live alone for a while--said I understood and would take care of things at the house--she said good you're going to have to. Started asking questions about other men(I know a big no,no) She got pissed and said she doesn't have another man, doesn't want another man and if I didn't quit asking she was not gonna call anymore. Ok, backed off and she relaxed again. Wow, this DB stuff really works--focused and we started talking again.

She mentioned that she want to go to counseling and I said great. We'll set it up on Monday. She said ok. Lot's of positives.

I ended the conversation, hey I have to go my daughter's friend had showed up to pick her up. She said ok, can I call you later? I said sure why not and hung up. Felt great!

One step at a time I guess--I have a lot more hope this hour. Not exactly what I want yet--duh, I want her home, but I guess I want her home the right way and I want her healthy and happy.

Any inputs for my date tonight? Thanks again for your support--you are good people!