I started with a DB coach about a month ago and agree it is well worth the money. She has helped me to see that there have been a number of positive developments. She has also helped me understand that at this stage of the game, it really does have to be all about my wife, so like you, I focus on being as supportive as I can in all situations.
Have a good workout. I always feel so much better after mine, no matter how down I felt going in. I just finished reading about your sitch, and you really seem to have it together pretty well. Take care,