Partner left after 9 years - eclipses coming up!

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Ali, That is interesting news & much to process!! I pretty much agree w/the good advise you've been given already. For some reason transformers advise hit home w/me. - Maybe because, my H is/was avoidant & I pushed the R talk, gave him an ulltimatum either try to be friends w/me & spend more time with me or D me. Well, my H chose the latter (as you know). Correct me if I'm wrong - but I think for these men they think it's easier to end it all & then the problems will go away. My H at one point said he wanted to work on our R after D - WTF is that about!?! (Someone elses H said the same things on these boards). Maybe it gives the distance & relieves the guilt they need.

Your H is just realizing what he has done. He needs to deal with it a bit more. You need to keep GALing. Maybe pop in at bandnight, if your H is there have a friendly chat, but don't be glued to him & leave first (maybe saying you have other friends to meet). In your earlier post, I did think it was strange you were uninvited. Now if it was someones party, I can see why, but if bandnight is at a pub ... well that's different. (But I do see why your friends did it). Agree with Julia & I wouldn't let your BF know - you have inside info on him. Your H does need to talk to someone he can trust & G is that person for him.

R talk for you - cheeseless tunnel.
How about adding bandnight to your list of GAL?? Maybe going there 1 or 2 times a month?