stella: dancing in limbo

[stella_k]

Hi CMNM, thank you for posting to me!

I am wondering why you don't just ask the questions you want? You don't have to turn it into an R talk---just listen and offer no input.

I guess I'm not asking because remember that with MLC we cannot speed up the process, but we can always slow ir down, by cornering them into answering our questions, for instance...

I know you say you don't initiate. The next step is to not even answer.

I can do that. The problem is, we have to communicate sometimes,so we do - quite calm and friendly - and then he manages to say something to give me hope again. My fault, I know, shouldn't have had any expectations. But I cannot help seeing progress: September our S starts, he says he never comes back, wants D. October, he says he doesn't wantb a D, starts calling more often. November, calling every day, visiting once a week, says he doesn't love OW. December, I try to limit calls and visitations, he persists. January - he tells me he's going to dump OW, he loves me, and then starts running and hiding. Feb - nothing, nada.

May be I can set a secret deadline, for myself, not for H, and just let him stew until then. Oh well, I cannot think clearly at the moment with all the emotions running amok.

thanks (((all))) for your support!