Hey Julia, I agree, he may not be ready for a big R talk. The GAL thing.. I am now best mates with Cher and band night was always 'her' night out with gf's, but then her fiance started tagging along with her and her female friends and then invites my ex with him! So we, or I, had more 'right' to be there than they did! This is the first time though I have taken the opportunity to grill BMF, cos I was at the end of my tether!
ITH.. Thanks for your email, sounds interesting!! I totally agree with you that there was always still a connection and the one he has with her is NOT a soul connection. What he was describing to BMF, sounded to me like he misses his soulmate (me!), absolutely. I also agree its realistic to start small, and NOT expect the R to jump back to where it was, but to build it up again. I think going along to band night next week is probably the best approach so far!
So.. BMF was telling me to call him and be honest and I said I couldnt and joked you do it for me ! So he said he would talk to him again next week, tell him that we've talked and tell him what I said..and then Cher interrupted us and that was that. But now I am worried now, I dont thikn that this is a good idea.. so I thikn tonight I will have to ask her to tell G, NOT to do that, as ex may feel cornered by it. Eek!
So tonight I am out again, with Cher and gf's ! I'm too old for all this socialising with younguns
