Thanks for your help everyone! Its pretty amazing hey? But I'm still skeptical, its not a done deal yet.. BMF agreed with me, he said, he's the sort of guy who could easily drift on for 2+ years in a rubbish R, just because he cant face the confrontation of sorting it out..
BMF admitted he hadnt actually said he wsa going to end it, just that he said he knew "it wasnt right" with her now. He said he thinks 2-3 months more tops and it will have run its course. 2-3 months more!! Still, I am not surprised and I have my degree to finish (finish 26th May - the day Saturn turns forwards, which is significant to seeing movement in my 1:1 Rs'!).
Rob - your gut is right.. I cant take much more of this, so this is his last chance, there better be some movement in that timeframe or it could be too late. I agree with you that I may need to tell him I want to try again and let him know, or reassure him I think we can work it out.
But T.. thankyou and I also agree with you! Maybe he isnt ready for hte big R talk and it might be better to just see him and spend some quality time with him, to remind him of what he is missing. I thought the same as you.. it should come from him, he should end it and speak up to me when he's ready and WANT me back.. but I said this to BMF and he said, no, it doesnt work that way..you have to let him know what he's missing to help him end it, else he will drift on maybe.
This Friday, 13th, would have been our 10 year official anniversary. I think he knows that.
