Spending has stopped (He has no more credit and either does OW)
His calls have stopped
His visits have stopped
I have started working out 5 days a week.
I am working more to better help the family out financially.
I have started to eat more healthy
The house is so much cleaner
I actually can go for about an hour without one thought of ex.
I am looking more toward my future than back at my past.
Life is good.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
trusting good for u.....interesting u mentioned how long u can go with out a thought of x...I was wondering today....gosh am i normal with how much this whole situation stays on my mind...ut i am also noticing a difference in the way I am feeling about what he is doing..i used to just feel hurt and betrayed...now im not as interested and think its disgusting.....and I am actually starting to feel like while our whole family is destroyed he will be the big loser......many older men....fathers of my friends have told me in a sincere way.....he will be sorry...I know some of them speak from experience...good for u trusting keep moving forward....get that Body u want ...I know it helps the confidence too
It's a great place to be. Give yourself a few pats on the back.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Had a wonderful evening with my 3 children at a restaurant.
Ex dropped by last night to drop off some things for my daughter. I made myself scarce and went to bed. It was very weird, I did not even think twice about seeing him or talking with him. I have stepped off this rollercoaster, and I like it.
Love, Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I am so happy to hear you sounding so positive. Life is far to short to give our x's anymore of our "happiness". Whether or not you are looking to fall in love again I am sure with this new attitude you will not be short of admirers. Enjoy your children.
Can I just ask why " The house is so much cleaner" ? this made me smile, I don't know why.
Trusting, I know you feel positive but I detect a note of sadness, too.
I am still somewhat angry, but I am also sad. I think I am progressing to the "sad" stage of grief. Since we are not actually D'd I anticipate feeling these feelings again when we do go through the process. I harbor some hope still, but I realize that I have done what I could.
Working out sounds like a good idea. I am physically in terrible shape (I am thin but not fit) and I think it would help me, too, but I have to take it very slowly because that is just how bad of shape that I am in!
With that said, I have taken steps to move forward as well and I think I am doing pretty well.
Last edited by breton39; 02/07/0911:13 PM.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
The house is cleaner because I am just more motivated to do this. I want things around me to look good. When my house is clean I feel better about myself.
When the MLC first started, I really let things slide. My kids noticed it.
Not any more.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
