Let me give you some idea of whet I've been doing for my W the past two months:
I've largely taken over cooking responsibilities. I am buying Bon Appetit mag's and cookbooks (my fav recipes) to cook up respectable dishes for the family, so she doesn't have the exclusive responsibility.
I bought a small table and two chairs that I can throw in my truck. I call her and tell her to meet me at a special beach spot of ours, where I have the table/chairs set up, and a nice spread of food laid out, along with twinkling candles. A nice romantic dinner that I try and do at least every few weeks now.
When making dinner sometimes, I ask her if she's like a jacuzzi bath tonight. (Tonight was one of those nights.) Of course, she takes me up on it, and it's a nice private time for her. I always give the toddler her baths at night.
I rub her shoulders practically every night, which she's always loved.
Every morning, I tell her how beautiful she looks. she really is beautiful, but I don't always feel like saying it.
Why do I do these things? Two reasons: they make me feel good, and BECAUSE IT IS IMPORTANT TO HER. I do it as selflessly as I can, but still dangling out there is the understanding that she would do more in the area of physical affection that I ENJOY. I'm keeping up my end of the bargain, but for how long?
My point is, I feel like I'm taking the attitude Poe passed along to me. Am I wrong?
