Thanks for stopping by and your comments. I've read of your thread and will jump in on your sitch when I can read some more.
My PMA, grace and acceptance is work in progress. Some days are better the others. Connecting and reading here, as well as a DB coach (though expensive) has helped a lot. Also, for me, recently "reading" (audiobook) "co-dependence no more" helped me a ton. It applied much to me in my M and in other areas of my life. It also talks a lot on GALing and Detaching, which is so needed in our sitches.