I can relate. This whole thing is pointless, isn't it?
I am wondering why you don't just ask the questions you want? You don't have to turn it into an R talk---just listen and offer no input.
I have done the same as you- go with the flow and get my heart broken again and again. I get the same stuff, (ex) "I had a dream about you and you were with someone else...it was awful!"- yet no move towards me, just more running.
I asked few questions because I told myself I was DBing, but in reality I was afraid of the answers. Answers might have had to make me face reality, and as long as he was stringing me along I could believe that he would be back some day.
This isn't fair to either of us. I know it hurts... after all this time I am just allowing myself to feel the pain... but we have to put hope on the back burner. I know you say you don't initiate. The next step is to not even answer.
It is very telling that you say your H isn't cruel- after all, he is gently trying to extract himself from a suicidal OW. Well, that's all fine and dandy, but he IS cruel. What he is doing to you is ridiculous. Since he isn't man enough to stop it, you need to.
And now I will copy this down as I need to take my own advice! Why is it so easy to see it in someone else's situation???
