If she is crying that is good. I don't think I would be sympathetic though. If she is crying she is either having second thoughts or feeling guilty or not really wanting to make this decision but feels forced into it (probably out of guilt).
This may help some of you understand. When we stay with you, we stay wrapped up in all of the emotion of the R at the time. And THAT is what we desperately need to be able to get away from to see things clearly. That's why it is easy to go look at at apartment and sign a lease. THAT path has does not have so much emotion down it and we are already overloaded with emotion. All of my feelings were overwhelming me. There are still some conversations, especially about his OW now, that I my emotions cup is already pretty much full, and it only takes about 2 exchanges to put me at full and overload me. It's called flooding. Down this path of less emotion, are the times I felt sane. I may have looked crazy from the outside, but I felt sane on the inside. Like it was something I had to do. To make sure this place in my life was where I wanted to be. It sucks that I had to bring everyone else in my life down this road, too.
I dunno. I think she is at least having an EA, maybe with somebody from work from what it sounds like. Don't you know someone you could ask that you trust to tell you the truth? Cell phone records are a big help.
Why doesn't she want to take your daughter? Interesting. How old is your daughter?
I made everything easy too. Because I felt it was the right thing to do and because I felt guilty. H was not the reason I wanted the D. I was. So why should he have had to pay for my mistakes??
I wouldn't ask her if she is having an A. But I think it is safe to assume she is. Leaving that cell phone lying around for you to be able to check....is too much. A normal person wouldn't do that. Mine stays in my purse. I have never locked mine either. It just seems like it's too much of a show, but maybe it's just how I see it from what you said.
(((John)))
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
