It does seem to get to them when you avoid them. Even though it is extremely hard to do. H will have D7 3 afternoons this week but I will make the contact as brief as possible. I sure wish there was a "quick fix" to all of this:)
H gets D7 tomorrow for the weekend. He is already inquiring about my plans for the weekend. As you know, I have dated. What should I say to him tomorrow at dropoff when he starts asking?
Not quite sure what is going on with him right now in his mind and maybe it is nothing, but, the last 2 days he has seemed a bit down.
I did ask him if he was ok. He said he felt like he was in a "funk". Well I have been sick with a cold the last 3 days so I asked him if he thought he was getting the cold.
He said "not that kind of funk". I have noticed that he and OW haven't talked AS much the last couple days. I think maybe she has just been busy with work but I don't know. He hasn't talked much about her lately and I have quit asking. She is still calling...just not as frequent for the last 2 days.
One thing that tugged on my heart strings though was this....he kept D7 overnight last night and took her to school this morning. Well he packed her lunch for her (usually she eats school lunch but wanted him to pack her a lunch) and he put a little note in the bottom of her bag that read "D7 have a great day at school and remember daddy loves you bunches." He put a smiley face on it and she carried it around all afternoon in her pocket.
I'm not understanding what your question is, Pooh?
If he asks you what your plans are, you're certainly under no obligation to tell him if you don't want to.
He sounds like he's in typical fogged-out wayward woe-is-me-ism, and wanting you to "rescue" him emotionally. I personally wouldn't get involved in his drama. Stay upbeat -- not a care in the world!
I have no intention on getting involved with his drama:) That is why I did not try to pry into what was bothering him. I just simply asked if he was ok and checked to see if he too had caught the cold. That is a 180 for me. Usually I would ask until I pulled it out of him:)
Ok now it is getting bad and I don't know what to do. I called to talk to D7 this morning and was talking to H also.
D7 informed me that her and H were going to help OW with a job today. I asked H if she had left her H yet and he said no. I told him that he said he would not take D7 around OW until she had.
He said "I haven't done it yet." We start to get into a fight and he tells me that OW told her H it was over and he is accepting that but did not tell him about my H.
H said in the end that he is not going to go. I don't know the truth to OW's H accepting it or not. H hung up on me. I called back. Then he told me that if I don't stop all this bs he will no longer take D7. We got into it about that.
I did talk to D7 again but H is furious at me and not sure what he is going to do now. I know I am rambling but I am a mess again.
Picked up D7 from H's tonight. When I got there H did not even acknowledge me at first(was playing new game he bought D7 this weekend). Then he asked me what I was up to. We started talking a little but nothing major.
D7 points out a bear sitting on the counter and tells me that OW gave it to H. The bear has a shirt on that says "I love you" on it. But yet they are just FRIENDS....whatever. Yet H claims he doesn't get to see OW much. He says 4 or 5 times a year. That is hilarious.
Then she starts telling me that when H took her to girl scouts last week he made OW a candy necklace.
This whole time H is just sitting there with a grin on his face. Then D7 tells me (in front of H) that OW stopped by last night for a few.
I stood there trying my best to keep my mouth shut. H piped up and says "she did not come in...she stayed on the road." D7 did confirm that. D7 had asked her to come in and see the clubhouse her and H had made but OW declined because my things are still in that house. But yet he never gets to see OW.
I did tell H a while back that I did not want OW in that house as long as my things are there. He told OW that. So far she hasn't been in there at least not when he has D7.
All I could do was just look H dead in the face and say "the lies need to stop now." He said he was not lying about anything and was going to tell me she had stopped by. YEAH RIGHT! I again said "the lies need to stop now."
Then I gathered D7's things and left. I think my H has no mind left. He has lied so much he would not know the truth if it hit him in the face. How ridiculous.
