Matilda, I went dancing on my own to a ballroom venue. I told my W so that she could decide to join me if she wanted. I had a good time, and met some people that I've taken lessons with in the past.
My W is still angry about the dance last weekend in which I was short with her during the dance.
When I got home from the dance, she asked me to practice. I was suprised by the offer, but considering the recent negativity and my fatigue, decllined her offer. She said that she's not asking again.
She said that the house was peaceful while I was gone, and wants me to go out more often, or better yet, take a trip somewhere. I'm thinking winter cabin fever is playing some role with this.
My self-help book on infidelity advises to focus on the marriage, and not pay attention to the affair R. It's hard to do, as I know I'm harboring anger, frustration, and disappointment about the recent sleeping elsewhere behavior.
I'll keep working on being open to whatever every day brings, and try to work with it. I'll keep dancing with or without my W, and enjoy my sheep puppy dog, and the warmer weather coming this week. Compassion and goodwill will be a struggle, but I'll do no intentional harm.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
