Hmm. Confusing bit about leaving the phone lying around and such. Although I am sure she is perfectly knowledgeable about deleting messages and phone call records. The only way to know for sure is to check the account online. You can't erase stuff off the online bill. Would get the stuff Puppy recommends. He mentioned EBlaster to somebody last week. I looked at the website and thought it was cool.
John, it may be that she does just want her space. After I had the A, I realized that that was what I really wanted was to just be left the hell ALONE for awhile. Like your wife, I moved out, found an apartment, I did take some of the furniture. I left him with the house, the bills, and told him I didn't want his retirement or child support. I just wanted AWAY. Time to think. Time to process. I was pregnant when we got married and I felt trapped, and I felt like HE felt trapped, too. He was the party animal and I was the dutiful wife and mother the first ten years. But the drinking got to be too much. He quit taking care of himself and now blames his weight on back problems. I'm like, yeah, you have the back problems because of the extra 50 lbs you're carrying around!! But I really don't care about the weight, honestly. It's not important to me. I don't see it when I look at him.
I think if you just keep making changes...Keep the weight off. Keep the drinking to a minimum. (I thought if he quit drinking it would solve all of our problems. He quit but we still had problems and then he would drink.) He also said things like wishing we hadn't had D4. I would try really really hard not to show that the stitch is getting to you. Keep taking care of yourself. The gym. Get the house nice. Focus on the kids. Let SS19 hang around as much as he is willing. Start cooking??!! You gotta be able to at least do burgers!! I have a great EASY recipe for French Chicken. I would just roll with it for awhile. Get back into a "groove". I would NOT ask her about the D at all.
On another note, we are getting the first few Raptors here. Totally canNOT tell you how they are just the coolest thing since sliced bread. Never seen anything like it before in my life. Take your daughter bowling Saturday night or go to the movies...or do something and if/when she calls on your cell phone to ask if you are okay, either 1. don't answer. or 2. answer and tell her you can't hear her for all the noise but that you'll call her tomorrow (Sunday) afternoon sometime (because you are either taking the kids to church, or you are taking them out for brunch). After all. If you're cleaning that much, you sure don't want to dirty up the dishes!
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
