She said she wanted to tell the kids tonite. She said she wanted to say that mommy and daddy are getting a divorce and its not about them. Mommy and daddy have problems that can't be fixed. But we still love them.
I said no. There is no WE in this. I said tell them that YOU are divorcing me and that YOU are not willing to try and work on the problems. I said you need to be honest with them. I said I am willing to work on our marriage.
She got mad and said maybe she should tell them all the things I did wrong in the marriage that drove her to this decision. I said go ahead. Just be honest with them. I said that I made my mistakes and I have admitted to both the kids and W that I made mistakes.
But she needs to own up to this if she is choosing this. And since she filed, she needs to tell them that this is all her decision. I'm not taking part in this decision.
She said there are some things I can never fix. I said not true.
She didn't end up telling the kids tonite.
But apparently they already know because the family that we were with last night, the kids there told our kids. I found this out when I picked my kids up from school today. I didn't answer one way or the other when they told me what they were told.
I'm gonna let W confirm to them while I am there.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
