Yes, Yoyo, I have learned that it is best to not engage her in anything unless it is absolutely necessary. But the consequence of this is already manifesting itself.
When I picked up my S's this evening to start my week with them, I was cordial but aloof. I even refrained from stepping into her apartment, staying just outside the door. I have determined there is no reason for me to have to even enter her apartment, let alone let her drag me into her drama anymore. From the very minute I got there she was giving me instructions about the care of the boys, as if I was an ignoramus or an inexperienced servant. I let it slide and focused on my S's instead.
She will call me cold and heartless, and accuse me again of having Asperger's. I don't care anymore. I was kind and friendly, but I was obviously not going to let her draw me in again. I'm done. She has been abusive of my good will and spurned any of my attempts at civility, let alone friendliness. So, smack me with a 2 x 4 if you want, but I've already wasted too much energy at trying to be magnanimous.
When I got home with my S's I later found she had sent two emails -- a different one to two separate email accounts I have. Very weird and confusing, but nothing she does makes any sense anymore.
The first one was a re-iteration of all her many "commands" to me for caring for our sons, as if I enjoy being patronized twice in one evening. She ended that one with this quip,
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I am on-call this weekend so my calling the boys times & phones may vary. Please keep your snide ugly comments to yourself & I promise to do the same & my mom vows to say nothing snide or negative about you & not respond or take personally the snide things the boys regurgitate from you that hurt her so much before, for their sake, to protect & shield them.
Such a winning personality she has... and I am so thrilled by how she accuses me of the very crime she and her mother are guilty of, maligning the other parent in front of our S's.
Then she followed up an hour later with an email complaining of the list of items from our family home I am seeking, mostly stuff for our S's to have over at my place when they are with me. She said...
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I told my lawyer to proceed with litigation to finalize the divorce & let the judge decide these irreconcilable issues about child support, custody & property settlement. You have had ample time & I'm sick of being jerked around. I can't wait to tell a judge you wanted the kids hot wheels track.
I forwarded all her rants to my atty., explaining that I feel this new level of venom coming from W is spurred on with the return of the evil MIL.
