Exposing at EA

[Still Waters]

OK so I finally remembered the password to my W's cell phone account tonight and I just couldn't resist looking even though the paper bills are on their way. Guess what I found. Puppy, you already know the answer I'm sure.

It's not the first OM that I thought it was. It's not the guy she told me it was the other night either. It's a different guy. How do I know? Since she dropped the bomb on me she has sent him over 200 text messages.

There's also about 45 or so calls on there to him as well, but 200 texts? That's insane. And this is a guy she NEVER mentioned to me. Not once have I heard his name from her. I know who he is, but I never once heard my W mention his name. Talk about lies and deceit. And you're right Sandi, I never would have thought that my W would be capable of this level of lying. It's amazing her head hasn't exploded from the guilt.

So what do I do? Do I expose? She has no idea that I know about the real OM. So far she thinks I just know about the one fake guy and her desire to date "other" men.

Part of me wants to expose her (for real this time) and get this out there. Not in a mean way of course, but to do so as calm and lovingly as possible. Just like I did the other night. At least then she won't be able to hide behind this running into an open field nonsense.

Not sure what to do here? Thoughts? I know I'm supposed to be dark, but this is new information and I feel like I need to expose. I know that I would be able to talk to her about it in a strong, lovingly detached way, even though it does hurt. I have the strength to keep my cool.

Oh, and the guy she claimed she had a brief flirtation with? There are maybe a handful of texts between them. So it looks like she was maybe telling the truth about him while continuing to lie through her teeth about the real OM. I guess she threw out the fake OM's name to throw me off the trail. No wonder she broke down sobbing. The guilt has got to be eating her up inside.