I was raised Catholic so I know about how people react to the word guilt...but there is such a thing as a conscience.
Shame is unhealthy. Remorse is a guide. Try hard to know the difference.
In the end, if I fail my children in some meaningful way, then nothing else I do in my life will matter much.
I don't know the right answer here, but I sense a scorecard and a competition with the wife and frankly, I don't care if she has a scorecard. I bet she does. I don't care what her motives are.... I just want you to do what is best for the children without the spin about your needs and wants. Sounds a lot like rationalizations, and those rationalizations are frightening things...
Hope this is making sense.
(( j ))
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