I just don't know what to say to help you b/c I am so bugged and I am not you! I'm not living there and yet I want to scream at her, wth is wrong here??
What possible goal@#$%^& what??? I don't get it. Go to court and ask a rational judge to explain how YOU coming back EARLY makes HER departure snow proof...I mean WTH??!!!@#$%^&* There, I said it!
I'm baffled. I'm flummoxed. I'm bewildered. I'm perplexed....(and I have no thesaurus around so I'm done). Oh, I'm also really angry at her. She is really getting so pathological and I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.
Maybe it'd be more helpful to you if I said to just shrug it off and have a blast with the kids and do NOT let her see the anger in you. (Call your sisters, they must be fuming...) You know, what else can you do?
You can go to court and you will. Let the L talk and let the judge see your w's "maternal" issues. Maybe it won't go her way....Her anger at you reminds me of my my former sil I told you about. I wanted to maintain a R with my nieces after my brother's divorce.
But when I would visit them, my xsil would tell me, in front of the kids, how much she "hated" my brother, their DAD. I felt I was actually worsening things. At one point I told her it's important to kids to know they are loved by both parents (no matter how flawed a spouse may feel the other is) and not to bad mouth the other or make it harder than it already is, and that this loving concern for the children, must never ever be outweighed by anger at the spouse. But it was.
Here, too, Your w's anger right now is the thing that is getting the most energy from her in her life. Even if the kids really mean the most to her, her anger is what she is fueling, not her maternal love. Shame on her. Good luck Monday, seriously... (( HUGS ))
((( j )))
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
