well, you have some thinking and praying and listening to do. I thought your w's comments about not being ready to reconcile and just wanting to start by saying she "gets it" to some extent, made much more sense, given your lack of contact, than it would make if she had stormed in filled with certainty. SO I thought her comments were good signs of her being realistic and wanting to take it SLOW which is what everyone, no matter what side of the fence they are on, is saying. Take this slow.
I don't see how that can hurt but I sure can see how rushing it would. And like FIB said, the first R's out of the box tend to be transitional ones...but who knows?
All we know is what your heart wants and we can tell what that is. But to protect yourself AND your chance of a recon, if it exists, you have to take it slow. So you see in a way, the advice is consistent in some areas.
No deadlines or timelines for this. If you know in your heart that the only thing stopping you from a recon feeling at your end, is fear of being hurt again, then you have the answer, since fear of being hurt exists in all the R's we'll ever have. But if it's because you have realized things about the M that now concern you or alarm you or you no longer want this woman in your life though she mothered your kids...that's a different story altogether.
We all are rooting for you. ( j )
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
