\My wife is going to leave me in 5 days--help!

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Mellenmack,
You may be right, but I seriously have done all the research, snooped around the house, talked to the kids, she tells me where she is going all the time, says call if you need something, etc. I think she feels guilty about leaving. Told me she knows its not right leaving her daughter.

I told her if she was having an EA/PA I would forgive her and we could get help. She got angry, I am not having an EA or a PA, would you stop w/ that! I love her with all my heart and really want to prove to her we can have a good rest of our lives together.

Plan to put a keylogger on her computer early next week before she leaves, just have to find an opportune time.

As far as help, my SS who is 19 was here. He mowed and helped w/ my daughter. Asked my stepson about how the wife acted and he said she came home late from work a lot but had work clothes on--she is in the military and when she called right before she came home she called from work--saw the caller id. Matches w/ her saying she has not had an A. Says she really would rather work than be at home--says she can handle work but not the home--too much crap to do and the kids didn't help clean the house that much probably because she didn't make them. Once my wife moves out, which I'm pretty sure she is, my daughter and I have a lot of work to do to get this place in order. She said she just wants to work, eat, sleep and have fun with no real responsibilities as far as a family is concerned. Wants to take care of herself only.

I know what you mean about what it takes to take care of things while I was gone. My last deployment(about 5 years ago) I came back and said something to the effect of hey, you just did what you needed to do, right? Man did I feel like a dumbass after saying that. Have apologized a bunch for it--seems she can't/won't forgive me for anything. Said I had treated my SS bad raising him. Talked w/ SS today and asked him if he had any hard feelings against me. He said, what are u talking about--are you kidding, you are my Dad, I love you and I'm sorry this is happening--wow, felt better. I asked the wife if she had told my SS--she said yes--I said, what did he say--she said he said John's a good man, you should try to work it out--holy cow, floored me!

Hell yes, I want you checking on me! I can use all the support I can get. I have NO Friends. My wife is/was my best friend. Could use your insight. Please keep checking on me.