Today, I had a bad day. Things in the office were going from bad to worse. There was a good chance I would have to stay late. My W had already made plans to go out with one of her GFs (never me)and someone needed to take D11 to her basketball game.
When my W called me at work, I knew she didn't plan on taking D to the game. I explained my situation and told her I might be late, but I would try to make it home on time. I managed to leave the office on time, but I got stuck in traffic. I called to say I would be late, but I got her voicemail.
I was asking myself why am I trying to get home so she could go out? I'm running late and she already know how hectic the Friday ride home can be. When she called back I was ready to let her have it. I told her I was stuck in traffic and I wasn't going to be home for a while. She said that we'll have to figure something out. That comment alone helped me feel better. Then I said I don't think I'll be home in time so you can go out. She said she could be late. This made me feel less angry.
She asked me why I told her I wasn't going to be home in time. I said because you always get angry when you want to go out and I'm not home in time. She said she understood that I was running late and there was nothing I could do. I thanked her for understanding and then said goodbye.
This is different for her. No fighing, no attitude and no silent treatment. I would have to say this is a big change for her.
