So G's advice was unequivical (sp!) and he said it at least 20 times.. just phone him. Pick up the phone and tell him all you've told me, sit him down and be honest, what have you got to lose? So.. shall I? Or email him? Or wait?? I dont know.
Also, he said that he wanted to invite me last night to bandnight, but was worried Helen might be there and didnt want to upset me.. but when he told my ex they'd uninvited me, my ex said, ahh, she could have come, you should've got Al here too... so I couldve gone last night! Grr.
I think we do need to be in the same room as one another and have a chat and some laughs.. maybe I need to ask Cher and G to make that possible by inviting us both, this Thursday? Of course, this is still going to take months to shake out, as he needs to build up to ending it with her and then let that go.. so I understand this isnt going to be an overnight thing.
Lastly, I 3 times said, but how does he even know I am still here? How does he know I am single even, or still love him? G was a bit cagey, but when I firmly asked him that the third time, he admitted "ok.. cos I told him".. this was at that talk 2 weeks ago, only then.. I said "DID YOU !??" he said.. yes I did, because he asked me, so I told him.. WOW! So thats interesting, that he wanted to know!
I understand people will think this possibly a bad thing, but its the nature of the beast.. my ex is avoidant, cowardly, reticent, slow to act, lacks confidence...and I have been afraid to speak up, so we seem to have needed people to intervene! And Cher and G have been wonderfully kind.
Theres more.. but this is a long post, basically, he has made a mistake and finally realised it and .. now what? He does have some attachment to her though, he did say they had a good time when they went skiing, which upset me, but that was a while ago and he realises its not right with her.
G reckons this is down to me now, I have to act, I have to see him, show him what he says he misses, reach out, phone him, contact him more, it isnt going to come from him.. not sure why not and not sure what to do with all this info ! Devise a plan I guess of how to approach him!?
..This is all so ridiculous.. I said it felt like a "life interrupted"...I've been through hell for a year and a half and we've still not had an honest conversation, and we need to! But I feel like I have been on the right path...you've got to believe in your dreams and never give up...
