Hey guys... well, I did have a good night (I won at bowling!) and Cher and fiance G are two amazing people.. they ahve been so kind and absolutely instrumental in this, if we get back together.
So Cher told G that I needed a chat.. and he said sweetly, Al, what do you want to ask me? Ask me anything! I said, are you sure? He said absolutely, shoot... so we talked for 1/2 an hour.
My head is spinning, but basically, my ex completely realises he has made a mistake, he realises its not right with her, that he doesnt have and never will have with her, what we had. He completely misses what we had and our homelife, which is interesting, as I always could never understand how he could leave, as we did have such a lovely cosy homelife..he said after many years with someone, it can get a bit boring at home sometimes, a bit stagnant, but you dont realise what you had until its gone and you miss it so much.
That he realised early on, the thing with her is just sex, but that he soon got bored of that.. and now.. G pulled a face like as though even that was a chore now. My ex did talk to him about what happened when they met and didnt get on and why not and G was honest with him about why they dont like her..(something to do with drink driving and ramping the car and acclerating and some other aggressive driving and the bolshiness) and when he gave the reasons, my ex agreed with him and said "yeah, fair enough".. and my ex said, he doesnt get on with her that well, as she often "annoys" him.
I was amazed.. why is he even still with her? G said the same.. I say to him, what are you playing at?? End it with her !!! Get back with Al, you're a fool...He said, he knows what he is doing, he is similiar.. just hoping the situation will sort itself out, being avoidant, doesnt want a confrontation, doesnt like a fuss...
All these things were said 2 weeks ago when G met had that serious chat. He said he definetly didnt want to move in with her, that he doesnt see her much..
