what is the purpose of the request in the sense that, you are saying you want her to go b/c (who wouldn't?) you are BOTH trying to save the M? He'll say he isn't. So, from HIS point of view why would he listen to a request of yours? You can remind him of the original one, and say you complied and would like him to do so as well. But back then wasn't the idea that you both wanted to be alone to think about maybe getting back? If he is pretending (or not) to want to move on, why would you have a say in it? It'll look like a test. You are going to need one sometime...
Instead, act as if she is proof that he does not want to restore the M, (and she IS!) and be the WOAFWL (you know, woman only a fool....) and make him want to prove something to YOU...
POINT BEING, until he tells you that HE wants to work on things, what conditions are you in a position to put on him? You can say that "friendship" of the close kind (not PA, but good friends) he seems to want, is precluded for you, b/c she is there and though you want to trust him, and maybe you even believe him, you feel the "mere appearance of impropriety" (military people get that) makes you feel unable to comply. Plus you think it's a double standard of his (which it absolutely IS) b/c he'd never allow this of you.
And don't forget Mel....ummm, a few days of his opening up to you is not exactly the same as him saying "I'll treat you well, want to get back together, I'll STOP DRINKING and I'll STOP acting weird around you and saying "are you okay"? after you see me with OW in public and oh, sure, I'll stop having a "roommate" in the house when my w and d4 are living somewhere else... HE knows this is BS and you do too. Why is she there? Why aren't you? Wth is going on with this?
Mel, Mel....is that a straw I hear? Or are you getting sucked back into his crazy world where this is normal or acceptable? I really hope it's a straw and you are having a milkshake... and his double standards are self serving and unfair. Period.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
