I think "OM" was helping him to relieve his guilt so he probably liked the idea of me seeing someone else.
It's funny... there's a weird element of that and yet the reality of it would really put them in a strange emotional place. I remember my H originally encouraging me to date other people, but on the other hand... when he thought I might be seeing someone I could tell the idea really bothered him. I even remember once asking him if he might know of any nice guys at work he could set me up with. I explained that this way he could "hand pick" a great stepdad for his kids. That one REALLY irked him!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
