It's Complicated! Part 3

[glamgirl]

Ok I did not end up taking ex h's sister out to lunch. She is a bit emotional and seems a bit lost. She called earlier and said that she couldn't make it here and was going to go back where she was living.

I said sis you need to do what you need to do, but don't make a rash decision.

I stopped over at s20's to say hi and check on them. S20 was playing the guitar and singing to his aunt. She was crying and calling all of her family saying what a great kid s20 was and how I did such a great job raising him.

It felt good to hear this. She even said, Glam I called my brother my ex h and told him how good you looked and that you haven't aged a bit. She also said, Glam I told him that you had just the brightest smile on your face. She said brother, did Glam always have that beautiful smile.

Ex h's sister made me feel good, but this isn't about me. I just went on with my life 14 years ago and made decisions to better my life from what it was.

I did tell sis that I loved your brother so much, but leaving him was the best thing I could have done for myself. My ex h has been clean and sober for the past 12 years, but she did tell me that he has had 3 domestic violence disputes. Just hearing that made me think yes, I had put that past life behind 14 years ago.

She showed me a pic of ex h. He looked old and aged. His lifestyle looks like it got the best of him. She also told me he never m, but that his last GF cheated on him. Hmmmm, at least he knows how that felt. I hold nothing against this man. God filled me with forgiveness.

She also told me that she called ex h today and telling him what a good son he had. He told her to tell me thank you and he started crying.

Ex h's family has always been the family of drama. My life back then was so full of drama.

Not sure where this is all going, but I am concerned for s20 that he got sucked into this drama. I know he is an adult now, but he is a spectacular kid and he does have a compassionate heart that could be taken advantage of.

I was praying for ex h's sister today and asking God how I could help her. God said, Glam you don't need to help her. I will help her. No need to worry.

I do have a tendancy to take on other peoples problems and I just need to let that all go.

Now if h would just return and we could call it all good!