As far the hard sobbing, it was either b/c she was guilty of a whole lot more than she was confessing or else she called herself really telling you good-bye (in her mind). I don't think she would have been that out of control over a few phone calls.
I agree and I think she definitely is guilty of a WHOLE lot more than she's letting on. Her whole life she's always been a "good girl," and she was brought up in a very Christian home. I'm pretty sure that what I'm seeing is her being absolutely racked by guilt and shame for what she's done. And no way would a few phone calls, texts, and some flirting cause her to break down like THAT.
When I get the phone bills next week I'll have ammo if she doesn't come clean. But for right now it's all about me going dark and letting her sit with her guilt and really own it, as Puppy said.
Another feather in my cap is that I know that the OM is out of town on a trip for the next 3 weeks. He left before my W and I had that big convo. So while she can still call and text him, she can't go running into his arms for comfort. And I actually know the exact day he gets back from his trip. Maybe I should plan to get together with my W briefly the day before that to expose the A completely once and for all. Something to think about, and I do have time. 3 weeks.
Me: 33 WAW/MLC: 33 M: 4+, T: 10+ Separated: Nov 08 A#1: Oct 08 - Jan 09 (exposed and ended) A#2: Feb 09 - ? 1: http://tinyurl.com/mrmistakes 2: http://tinyurl.com/ckch9t 3: http://tinyurl.com/stillwaters3
